Autobiagraphical ( Notes Byrne) II The impact of a Father

Programs such as well fair and SSI give financial incentives to keep families separated. 


Due to discipline instilled in me, by my father forcing me to study five nights a week for two hour sessions, and Master Calhoun training me in Taekwondo, I made honor roll. Thus was removed from special education classes. I hated my father for the forced discipline until recently.

It’s a norm to have single parent households. I can’t count the number of kids I've taught that don’t know their father. Programs such as well fair and SSI give financial incentives to keep families separated. I've taught only a few students who have had their father’s force them to study.

From my childhood neighborhood it was said my father was abusive. In the public school settings I've watched single parents beat their children in the principal’s office. I have experienced the effect of children who are neglected. I come to wonder if my father was abusive. He was there in my life. It is not my intention to slander anyone. He was very overbearing. He took out MTV and VH1 and replaced it with Disney. He would ground me quite often. He tried to censor the music I listened to. It was mandatory for me to chores everyday. After washing cars, cutting the lawn, and such he’d inspect it and if I missed a spot I had to do chores all over again. I was very impressionable and scared of everything. I came to think that rich folk were evil. That’s what the bible said. I thought hanging around the poor was divine. Through teaching and other life experiences I have learned that most of the rich I knew worked very hard persistently and many of the poor I knew were lazy, not having the work ethic of the rich. I watch the kids I teach threatening teachers, wear paints hanging below their waste, being influenced by gangsta rap rhymes more than their parents, and community leaders and teachers. I wonder if they’d be that way if they were disciplined from a younger age by their fathers.

At seventeen years of age I rn away from home...


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